My cake was great, not a "cakewreck"!

Yikes, although I was really happy with my wedding cake there are apparently tons of people who suffer pastry related disasters! Enough so that there is a whole blog devoted to them,http://cakewrecks.blogspot.com/. We had many pleased guests who told us it our cake incredibly moist and not too sweet, which is what P was going for. He himself designed and explained his concept to Cakes by Nancy, and in the end even made the decision to include our cute little cake toppers. So, we were happy.

But what about those poor people who have a wedding day tragedy? This happened in a bakery in San Jose so I felt like we escaped relatively unscathed from our own Baker. We could have gone with someone more well known in Northern California but now I'm glad we stayed with my small town baker!





To read more about this disaster from the Mother of the Bride herself go here.

Melt Down.

I had my first marriage related meltdown this weekend, 3 days of family and DIY and driving and pressure will do that to you. I blame my caterer, that crazy bi***. More on that later. Now that the dam has burst and I am officially freaking out about 10 days left to the wedding please note one of my (Irrational??) fears.

Although one of my big ideas going into this wedding is that I trust my best friends, aka the BM's, to dress themselves and pick out what is best for each of them, now I am freaking out that one of them is going to go to Burning Man or a lake or a run or something and end up like this:



From WeddingBee Blog You know who I mean, Bio BM... Please people, listen to Baz Luhrmann, wear sunscreen!

Deep Thoughts

On a couple of the blogs that I read daily, Feministe and Cup of Jo, there were stories featuring links discussing a new poll that found that 50% of women surveyed felt that there should be a legal requirement to change your last name when you marry.

"A whopping 70% of the respondents in a new study feel that women should take their husbands' last name, and 50% say that it should be a legal requirement for a woman to take her spouse's last name. The Center for Survey Research at Indiana University presented these surprising findings this week, reports USA Today and the Daily News.

Why did these people feel this way? "They said that women should lose their own identity when they marry and become a part of the man and his family," said Laura Hamilton, a Indiana University associate professor and the author of the study. Other people said women should change their names because of religious reasons, or "they said the mailman would get confused" if women didn't change their names, says Hamilton."

So what can we say to this...wow and wow. Wow.

I am changing my name but not for the reasons of losing my identity and be subsumed into P's. I truly believe that my identity will only become more fabulous with a name as unique as the one I will be gaining! I have definitely had boyfriends before that I thought, "if I were to marry this person, I would surely keep my own name!". For me the decision must be a personal one, and based on your name and preferences. I hate any kind of fundamentalism and I really do not want to be told what I must do with my last name. So, although my choice seems to be the conventional one, it was made with a purely progressive mentality, considering what worked best in my circumstance.

Awsome.

SUBJECT: BrideAttack's Big Mistake
To: Bio BM, Bakey BM, Stats BM
From: GRE BM

BrideAttack made the mistake of letting us pick out our BM dresses. She should've gone with this etsy seller: avantgarb.
fashionista!!

To Which Bio BM replied:

SUBJECT: RE: BrideAttack's Big Mistake
To: GRE BM, Bakey BM, Stats BM
From: Bio BM

dood, that's the site that I bought from for Burning Man.
Its so 2020. No one will see it coming.





If these girls weren't already my best friends I would go out and search them out, stalk them, and then MAKE them be my BFF's.

How much longer do we have to wait for this thing to happen?

My brain is a repository of terribly long lists right now, it's getting hard to concentrate at work! Ooops! This Saturday will be HUGE. Meeting with the venue to do the final walk through and floor plan. Meeting also with the caterer, checking out the linens, and trying out the centerpieces. Will pick up the videographer at the train station and drag him around to the Library Galleria and Church. Awesome. Please, please can I find some time to go to Elk Grove, CA and "formally" ask HS BFF's daughter to be one of my flower girls?

Thank goodness I have some wonderful BM's who are always there to help out. Bakey BM will be accompanying me through the final walk through and is my right hand (wo)man and crafter in chief when it comes to the DIY projects. Two projects that we will be discussing this weekend: Luminarias and Giant Initials. (How expensive they are will determine exactly how "Giant" I can get them!)


Pictures from Weddingbee.com

Add it to the Vernacular, Baby.

Stats BM coined a new term today as a result of some serious lapses of my short term memory and over all sanity. I have at this point thought that I had mailed emails, made phone calls and had conversations that NEVER occurred. Just in my head, with myself. When asked about a date to be firmed up, I totally seriously told this BM that we had already talked about it (not true). Then Bakey BM pointed out that I was creating a serious scheduling conflict with um, her brother's wedding. Which P and I have been slated to go to for the last 6 months....

What is it called when your mind is taking a vacation due to overwork from wedding related information overload? BRIDAL BRAIN!!!



According to Stats BM, your brain send everything to a black hole, possibly never to reappear. Just one more reason why I can't wait to finally be married!!